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"If you behave normally, people treat you normally. It's only when you act as if you're someone special that they feel obliged to stand on ceremony"

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Normality, in Victoria Wood's hands, isn't bland; it's a power move. The line turns social hierarchy into a bit of stagecraft: "people treat you normally" until you insist on the spotlight, at which point everyone else has to perform too. "Stand on ceremony" is the killer phrase because it exposes politeness as labor. When someone acts "special", the room gets drafted into an unwritten script - titles, deference, careful phrasing - and suddenly a casual human exchange becomes a small bureaucratic event.

Wood is needling a very British anxiety: the fear of making a fuss, of appearing grand, of forcing others into awkwardness. Her comedy always understood that class isn't only money and accent; it's the micro-rituals, the teacup-handling etiquette of everyday life. The joke lands because it flips what status usually promises. Instead of specialness yielding admiration, it yields obligation. People aren't honoring you; they're managing you. They're complying with the performance to keep the peace.

There's also an ethic tucked inside the punchline. Wood isn't romanticizing humility as virtue-signaling; she's offering a practical lesson in social friction. Behave "normally" and you let everyone relax into authenticity. Demand exception and you create distance, not because you're above them, but because you've made intimacy expensive. It's a comedian's truth: the quickest way to kill warmth is to audition for importance.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wood, Victoria. (2026, January 16). If you behave normally, people treat you normally. It's only when you act as if you're someone special that they feel obliged to stand on ceremony. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-behave-normally-people-treat-you-normally-117742/

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Wood, Victoria. "If you behave normally, people treat you normally. It's only when you act as if you're someone special that they feel obliged to stand on ceremony." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-behave-normally-people-treat-you-normally-117742/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you behave normally, people treat you normally. It's only when you act as if you're someone special that they feel obliged to stand on ceremony." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-behave-normally-people-treat-you-normally-117742/. Accessed 24 Feb. 2026.

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Victoria Wood (May 19, 1953 - April 20, 2016) was a Comedian from United Kingdom.

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