"It's definitely part of it, that the men were having fun and doing the interesting things but also, I don't know, I'm just thinking more about gender and how maybe in some way I am more of a boy than a girl"
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Then she pivots, and the pivot is the point. “But also, I don’t know” functions as both hedge and honesty, a refusal to deliver a neat, affirming identity statement on cue. Instead of the triumphant arc (girl realizes she’s really a boy; problem solved), Bechdel stages the messier mechanism: when culture codes agency, risk, and adventure as male, wanting those things can feel like wanting maleness itself. That’s the subtext that stings - not because it invalidates trans or nonbinary readings, but because it shows how identity can be partially assembled from what you’re allowed to want.
Contextually, this fits Bechdel’s long project of mapping selfhood against inherited scripts: family mythology, literary canons, queer desire, and the everyday micro-economy of who gets to be central. The sentence is conversational, even shrugging, yet it smuggles in a sharp critique: gender isn’t just who you are; it’s also the story you’ve been trained to believe counts as “interesting.”
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Bechdel, Alison. (2026, January 17). It's definitely part of it, that the men were having fun and doing the interesting things but also, I don't know, I'm just thinking more about gender and how maybe in some way I am more of a boy than a girl. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-definitely-part-of-it-that-the-men-were-38746/
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Bechdel, Alison. "It's definitely part of it, that the men were having fun and doing the interesting things but also, I don't know, I'm just thinking more about gender and how maybe in some way I am more of a boy than a girl." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-definitely-part-of-it-that-the-men-were-38746/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's definitely part of it, that the men were having fun and doing the interesting things but also, I don't know, I'm just thinking more about gender and how maybe in some way I am more of a boy than a girl." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-definitely-part-of-it-that-the-men-were-38746/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






