"It's not a gift of mine, but one given to me, to be able to criticise myself and not be crushed, by myself or by others"
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The subtext is less self-help than self-preservation. He’s not celebrating harshness; he’s isolating the difference between scrutiny and self-erasure. The phrase “by myself or by others” matters because it names the two executioners: internal shame and external contempt. Malkovich suggests the real threat isn’t criticism itself but the way it can metastasize into identity. If you can’t keep critique in its proper lane - about a choice, a performance, a day - it becomes a verdict on your worth.
There’s also a sly humility in “not a gift of mine.” He refuses to turn resilience into a moral trophy, which is a subtle rebuke to cultures that treat fragility as failure. In context, coming from someone with a reputation for intensity and control, it reads as a rare disclosure: the calm behind the craft isn’t invulnerability. It’s the ability to stay porous to feedback without letting it define you.
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| Topic | Learning from Mistakes |
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Malkovich, John. (2026, January 15). It's not a gift of mine, but one given to me, to be able to criticise myself and not be crushed, by myself or by others. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-gift-of-mine-but-one-given-to-me-to-be-146154/
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Malkovich, John. "It's not a gift of mine, but one given to me, to be able to criticise myself and not be crushed, by myself or by others." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-gift-of-mine-but-one-given-to-me-to-be-146154/.
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"It's not a gift of mine, but one given to me, to be able to criticise myself and not be crushed, by myself or by others." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-gift-of-mine-but-one-given-to-me-to-be-146154/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.












