"Liars share with those they deceive the desire not to be deceived"
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The line lands like a moral judo flip: it turns our usual picture of the liar as a swaggering puppet-master back onto a quieter, more uncomfortable likeness. Bok isn’t romanticizing deception; she’s pointing out its dependency. Lying is parasitic on a shared baseline expectation that words mean what they claim. The liar counts on a social fabric sturdy enough to exploit, and in that sense is allied with the very person they’re manipulating: both are invested in a world where trust is the default setting.
The subtext is a rebuke to the easy fantasy that deception is purely a power move. Liars often aren’t nihilists who think truth is for suckers. They want truth from everyone else. They want accurate bank statements, faithful partners, honest doctors, reliable clocks. Their own lie is an exception they grant themselves, not a new ethical system. Bok exposes that hypocrisy with surgical calm: the liar’s success depends on the victim’s good faith, and the liar typically relies on that same good faith in other areas of life. They’re not outside the moral economy; they’re freeloading within it.
Context matters: Bok wrote in a post-Watergate, media-saturated America increasingly alert to institutional spin and private duplicity. Her broader project in ethics treats lying not as a personal quirk but as a social hazard: once deception becomes normalized, everyone pays through rising suspicion and transactional relationships. The brilliance here is how she makes the liar’s motive legible without excusing it: to lie is to bet on trust while quietly wishing you never had to take that bet yourself.
The subtext is a rebuke to the easy fantasy that deception is purely a power move. Liars often aren’t nihilists who think truth is for suckers. They want truth from everyone else. They want accurate bank statements, faithful partners, honest doctors, reliable clocks. Their own lie is an exception they grant themselves, not a new ethical system. Bok exposes that hypocrisy with surgical calm: the liar’s success depends on the victim’s good faith, and the liar typically relies on that same good faith in other areas of life. They’re not outside the moral economy; they’re freeloading within it.
Context matters: Bok wrote in a post-Watergate, media-saturated America increasingly alert to institutional spin and private duplicity. Her broader project in ethics treats lying not as a personal quirk but as a social hazard: once deception becomes normalized, everyone pays through rising suspicion and transactional relationships. The brilliance here is how she makes the liar’s motive legible without excusing it: to lie is to bet on trust while quietly wishing you never had to take that bet yourself.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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