"Most chick singers say 'if you hurt me, I'll die'... I say, 'if you hurt me, I'll kick your ass.'"
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The intent is branding, yes, but also boundary-setting. Benatar came up in a late-’70s/early-’80s rock landscape where toughness was coded masculine and “strong female vocalist” often meant being allowed to borrow male swagger for three minutes at a time. Her move is to claim that swagger without asking permission, and to make anger legible as self-respect rather than hysteria. The profanity-lite punch of “kick your ass” keeps it street-level: no poetic suffering, no saintly endurance, just a clear line in the sand.
Subtextually, it’s a preemptive rebuttal to the way women’s pain is commodified. If the culture expects a woman to narrate heartbreak as self-erasure, Benatar insists on agency - even aggression - as a viable emotional register. It’s funny because it’s blunt, but it’s also political because it shifts the power dynamic: the hurt party isn’t dying; she’s standing up.
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Benatar, Pat. (2026, January 16). Most chick singers say 'if you hurt me, I'll die'... I say, 'if you hurt me, I'll kick your ass.'. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-chick-singers-say-if-you-hurt-me-ill-die-i-136563/
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Benatar, Pat. "Most chick singers say 'if you hurt me, I'll die'... I say, 'if you hurt me, I'll kick your ass.'." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-chick-singers-say-if-you-hurt-me-ill-die-i-136563/.
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"Most chick singers say 'if you hurt me, I'll die'... I say, 'if you hurt me, I'll kick your ass.'." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-chick-singers-say-if-you-hurt-me-ill-die-i-136563/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.





