"My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual"
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The kitchen timer matters. It’s a symbol of mid-century domestic confinement and the quiet tyranny of the household schedule. Diller, a comedian who built a persona out of weaponizing the “bad housewife” stereotype, slips a critique inside the gag: women are expected to keep the machinery running, including their own emotional machinery. Cry if you must, but do it efficiently. Rage becomes another chore, like defrosting the chicken.
“Simmer down” is the perfect punchline because it collapses feelings into cooking language, making the whole method sound like common sense. The subtext is slyly bleak: society will tolerate your grief and fury only if it doesn’t interrupt the calendar. Diller’s brilliance is that she doesn’t sermonize about repression; she sells it as a “recipe,” letting the audience laugh at how normalized that bargain is.
Underneath the wit is a pragmatic insight: emotions don’t disappear on command, but boundaries can keep them from running your day. It’s coping advice disguised as a one-liner, sharpened by the era’s expectations and Diller’s refusal to be the “pleasant” woman on cue.
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| Topic | Anger |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Diller, Phyllis. (n.d.). My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-recipe-for-dealing-with-anger-and-frustration-9495/
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Diller, Phyllis. "My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-recipe-for-dealing-with-anger-and-frustration-9495/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-recipe-for-dealing-with-anger-and-frustration-9495/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.








