"Polite and velvety leaders, who take care to avoid bruising others, are generally not as effective at forcing change"
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Isaacson is gently puncturing a fantasy that modern professional life loves to sell: that the nicest person in the room is also the most transformative. The phrasing matters. "Polite and velvety" isn’t just courteous; it’s upholstered, padded, optimized to prevent friction. He pairs that softness with the blunt verb "forcing", which sounds almost ill-mannered on purpose. Change, he implies, is not a group hug. It’s a contest over resources, status, habits, and power - and contests produce bruises.
The subtext is less "be a jerk" than "stop confusing comfort with leadership". Isaacson’s career has been built on biographies of high-impact figures who were often difficult: not because cruelty is admirable, but because impatience, risk tolerance, and a willingness to endure conflict can be operational necessities when institutions default to inertia. "Take care to avoid bruising others" reads like a critique of a managerial style obsessed with optics: protecting feelings, smoothing emails, avoiding clear calls, and mistaking consensus for progress. Velvety leaders can become custodians of the present.
Contextually, this lands in an era when leadership is increasingly evaluated through interpersonal hygiene - emotional intelligence, inclusivity, "psychological safety" - all real virtues, all easily turned into a veto on urgency. Isaacson is warning that power does not yield because you asked nicely; it yields when someone is willing to spend political capital, withstand backlash, and make decisions that disappoint people. If you want disruption, you may have to accept a little abrasion - and accept that being liked is not the same as being effective.
The subtext is less "be a jerk" than "stop confusing comfort with leadership". Isaacson’s career has been built on biographies of high-impact figures who were often difficult: not because cruelty is admirable, but because impatience, risk tolerance, and a willingness to endure conflict can be operational necessities when institutions default to inertia. "Take care to avoid bruising others" reads like a critique of a managerial style obsessed with optics: protecting feelings, smoothing emails, avoiding clear calls, and mistaking consensus for progress. Velvety leaders can become custodians of the present.
Contextually, this lands in an era when leadership is increasingly evaluated through interpersonal hygiene - emotional intelligence, inclusivity, "psychological safety" - all real virtues, all easily turned into a veto on urgency. Isaacson is warning that power does not yield because you asked nicely; it yields when someone is willing to spend political capital, withstand backlash, and make decisions that disappoint people. If you want disruption, you may have to accept a little abrasion - and accept that being liked is not the same as being effective.
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