"The "what should be" never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to it. There is no "what should be," there is only what is"
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The specific intent is to puncture the authority of “should” as a social weapon. “Should” is how institutions dress up preference as principle: how courts, clergy, and broadcasters turn discomfort into law. Bruce’s career was defined by being punished for refusing that costume. Obscenity trials weren’t only about dirty words; they were about who gets to decide what counts as “decent,” and how “decency” conveniently tracks power.
The subtext is bleakly liberating: if the ideal never existed, then shame is often just bad bookkeeping, a debt you were told you owed. He’s also mocking aspirational culture, the endless self-improvement treadmill that treats life as a perpetual audition for an invisible committee. The punchline is existential: stop negotiating with an imaginary rulebook.
Context matters because Bruce wasn’t saying this from a mountaintop; he was saying it under surveillance, under indictment, often literally in court. That pressure gives the line its bite. It’s not “be authentic” as a lifestyle slogan. It’s “the fantasy is killing you, and they’re calling it virtue.”
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Bruce, Lenny. (2026, January 17). The "what should be" never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to it. There is no "what should be," there is only what is. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-what-should-be-never-did-exist-but-people-54745/
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Bruce, Lenny. "The "what should be" never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to it. There is no "what should be," there is only what is." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-what-should-be-never-did-exist-but-people-54745/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"The "what should be" never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to it. There is no "what should be," there is only what is." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-what-should-be-never-did-exist-but-people-54745/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.




