"After I got over the terrible pain of having something of mine taken from me, I began to think how bad everybody else must be feeling. It wasn't a nice time"
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Then comes the pivot that reveals the real engine of the quote: empathy as an aftershock. “After I got over” isn’t triumphal; it’s procedural, like clearing wreckage just enough to see the street again. Only once the rawness loosens does she widen the lens to “everybody else,” a move that reads less like saintliness than like hard-earned perspective. She’s not claiming to be above heartbreak; she’s admitting that compassion sometimes requires surviving your own private collapse.
The plainness of “It wasn’t a nice time” is doing heavy lifting. Coming from an actress celebrated for glamour and poise, the understatement punctures the expectation that she’ll narrate suffering with elegance. Horne spent her life navigating a culture that demanded performance even in pain: Hollywood’s polish, racism’s daily abrasions, the pressure to appear unbothered. The quote pushes back against that script. It suggests that what looks like composure may simply be endurance, and what looks like generosity may be the second stage of surviving something unbearable.
The intent feels almost corrective: don’t romanticize resilience. Sometimes the best you can do is live through the taking, then notice you’re not the only one missing something.
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| Topic | Sadness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Horne, Lena. (2026, January 17). After I got over the terrible pain of having something of mine taken from me, I began to think how bad everybody else must be feeling. It wasn't a nice time. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/after-i-got-over-the-terrible-pain-of-having-54741/
Chicago Style
Horne, Lena. "After I got over the terrible pain of having something of mine taken from me, I began to think how bad everybody else must be feeling. It wasn't a nice time." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/after-i-got-over-the-terrible-pain-of-having-54741/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"After I got over the terrible pain of having something of mine taken from me, I began to think how bad everybody else must be feeling. It wasn't a nice time." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/after-i-got-over-the-terrible-pain-of-having-54741/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






