"Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you"
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Children are often seen as inattentive or distracted, seemingly unfazed by adult instructions or advice. Beneath this surface, however, lies a deeper truth: while children may not always respond directly to what adults say, they are highly attuned to what adults do. The behaviors, attitudes, and habits of parents, teachers, and caregivers become silent lessons, absorbed and replicated by young observers. It’s not the spoken words that leave a lasting imprint, but the lived example set before them every day.
Adults may find themselves frustrated when it appears that children disregard their counsel or commands, but a more important concern is the example being set through daily actions. Children watch how adults handle stress, treat others, express joy, or deal with setbacks. These observations create an internal blueprint for their own behavior, often more powerful than any explicit instruction. Integrity, kindness, patience, and resilience aren’t taught as much as they are demonstrated. The way an adult reacts to a long line at the store, handles frustration after a bad day, or shows generosity to a stranger silently communicates core values.
It’s an invitation to mindfulness for all adults who interact with children. What priorities are revealed through everyday choices? Do actions consistently align with spoken values? Children’s ability to observe and emulate is a reminder that character is shaped as much by absorbed example as by intentional teaching. The influence of adults is persistent and subtle, affecting not only how children behave in the present but also who they become in the future. Efforts to mold young people should therefore focus just as much, if not more, on embodying lessons as on verbalizing them. Ultimately, the patterns and standards adults set through their own lives form the foundation upon which children build their understanding of the world.
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Source | Quote commonly attributed to Robert Fulghum; referenced on his Wikiquote page. |
Tags | Children |
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