"I am not, I repeat, NOT a lesbian - even though I'd like to be one when I grow up"

Dawn French’s statement, “I am not, I repeat, NOT a lesbian, even though I’d like to be one when I grow up,” balances humor, identity, and social commentary with her characteristic wit. At first glance, she asserts her heterosexual identity with definitive repetition, signaling a firmness about the facts of her sexual orientation. But her playful juxtaposition that follows, expressing a wish to become a lesbian when she ‘grows up’, undercuts the firmness with irony and self-deprecation. The remark is not intended as a literal declaration of intent, but rather as a clever twist that invites the audience to reflect on stereotypes and perhaps assumptions about her or even about sexual orientation more broadly.

French’s humor often subverts conventional expectations, and here she nudges at the rigid labels society attaches to sexuality. The notion of “becoming” a lesbian “when I grow up” is amusing precisely because adulthood is generally when one’s identity is considered established rather than aspirational. By framing lesbianism as an attribute to aspire to, she confounds heteronormative norms and pokes fun at the idea that sexual orientation is a quality to be chosen, aspired to, or grown into, rather than an innate aspect of oneself.

Beyond the reverberations of wit, French’s words can be read as an affectionate nod to the lesbian community. Her phrasing suggests admiration or even envy towards lesbians, perhaps for their camaraderie, confidence, resilience, or cultural vibrancy, qualities that French, as someone outside the community, views with respect and good humor. Simultaneously, French’s line can be interpreted as playful solidarity; by expressing a ‘wish’ to be part of the group, she signals her support and affection, using irony and charm to dissolve boundaries and mock the seriousness with which society sometimes treats labels.

Ultimately, this statement showcases Dawn French’s unique ability to prompt reflection through laughter, interrogate social conventions, and affirm inclusive attitudes, all with a few clever words.