"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision"
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The kicker is "decision". Roosevelt smuggles agency into a sentence that could have been purely descriptive. Who we "really are" isn't merely discovered; it's accepted, resisted, revised. That choice carries an ethical charge, especially coming from a woman who was expected to perform grace under constraint. As First Lady, she became a kind of unofficial conscience for the office, expanding the role into activism, radio, writing, and civil rights advocacy. The quote reads like self-instruction from someone who had to become herself in stages - the shy, judged Roosevelt and the formidable public figure were not the same person, until they were.
"Live with" lands with grown-up realism. It's not "celebrate" or "express" or "optimize". It's endurance, accountability, consequences. In an era that prized women's pleasantness and obedience, Roosevelt reframes selfhood as a settled stance you must inhabit, even when it complicates your relationships, your reputation, or your comfort. The subtext: authenticity isn't a vibe; it's a commitment that costs something.
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Roosevelt, Eleanor. (n.d.). I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-that-somehow-we-learn-who-we-really-are-19272/
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