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Time & Perspective Quote by Amy Tan

"My parents had very high expectations. They expected me to get straight A's from the time I was in kindergarten"

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It lands like a joke, but it isnt one: straight As in kindergarten is an absurd benchmark, the kind that turns childhood into a performance review. Amy Tan compresses an entire immigrant-family psychodrama into a single, clean sentence. The first clause sounds almost admirable, the familiar brag of ambition and sacrifice. The second clause snaps it into focus: this isnt merely encouragement, its an impossible standard applied before a child even has the language to negotiate it.

Tan's intent is less to indict "strict parents" than to reveal how love can be routed through achievement when safety and status feel fragile. The subtext is anxiety dressed up as aspiration. For many families shaped by migration, success is not self-expression; it is insurance. High expectations become a survival strategy, and the child becomes the investment vehicle. By choosing kindergarten, Tan spotlights how early identity gets tethered to grades, and how quickly approval can become conditional.

Context matters: Tan's work, especially The Joy Luck Club, returns to the generational misfires between mothers carrying the logic of hardship and daughters raised inside American myths of individuality. This line echoes that tension. It also quietly diagnoses a cultural script that still thrives today, from helicopter parenting to the college-admissions arms race: when the scoreboard is moralized, excellence stops being a goal and becomes proof of worth. The power of the quote is its understatement; Tan lets the ridiculousness indict itself, leaving you to feel the pressure in the gap between what a child is and what a family needs her to represent.

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Amy Tan (born February 19, 1952) is a Novelist from USA.

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