"Never insult anyone by accident"
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Heinlein’s line reads like a pocket maxim for people who believe words are tools, not confetti. “Never insult anyone by accident” doesn’t ask you to be nicer; it asks you to be intentional. The sting is in that last word. Accident implies sloppiness: a failure to aim, to read the room, to understand the power dynamics you’re stepping into. Heinlein, a writer who loved systems, competence, and the ethics of agency, frames courtesy as a kind of marksmanship. If you’re going to take a shot, know why you’re taking it.
The subtext is almost harsher than the literal advice. It assumes insult is sometimes warranted, even useful: as boundary-setting, as truth-telling, as a social correction. What’s unacceptable is the casual collateral damage of thoughtless speech. There’s also an implicit critique of people who hide behind “I didn’t mean it” as a moral alibi. Intent isn’t only what you feel inside; it’s what your words do out in the world. Accident becomes a dodge, a way to keep your self-image clean while still leaving bruises.
Context matters: Heinlein wrote in and about mid-century America, a period obsessed with professionalism, rank, and clear codes of conduct. The line fits that milieu: a hard-edged etiquette for a world where reputations travel fast and social friction can become political. Today it lands as a warning against both online “just kidding” cruelty and careless, unexamined bias. Think before you speak, not because speech is dangerous, but because it’s consequential.
The subtext is almost harsher than the literal advice. It assumes insult is sometimes warranted, even useful: as boundary-setting, as truth-telling, as a social correction. What’s unacceptable is the casual collateral damage of thoughtless speech. There’s also an implicit critique of people who hide behind “I didn’t mean it” as a moral alibi. Intent isn’t only what you feel inside; it’s what your words do out in the world. Accident becomes a dodge, a way to keep your self-image clean while still leaving bruises.
Context matters: Heinlein wrote in and about mid-century America, a period obsessed with professionalism, rank, and clear codes of conduct. The line fits that milieu: a hard-edged etiquette for a world where reputations travel fast and social friction can become political. Today it lands as a warning against both online “just kidding” cruelty and careless, unexamined bias. Think before you speak, not because speech is dangerous, but because it’s consequential.
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