"To understand is to forgive, even oneself"
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Understanding loosens the grip of judgment by replacing caricatures with causes. When we see the pressures, fears, deficits, or misguided hopes that drive behavior, the urge to punish often gives way to a steadier wish to repair. Alexander Chase, the mid-20th-century aphorist whose book Perspectives gathered reflections on human nature, distills a psychological truth: explanation does not excuse, but it softens the craving for retribution and opens a path to mercy.
Forgiveness here is not amnesia or approval. It is the decision to release corrosive resentment while still naming the harm and protecting what needs protecting. That distinction matters. If we confuse understanding with exoneration, we fear that empathy will weaken justice. Chase suggests the opposite. Real understanding heightens accountability by showing where agency existed and where it faltered, while cooling the heat of vengeance that clouds judgment.
The final clause, even oneself, is the crucial turn. Many people reserve their harshest sentences for their own failures, rehearsing shame until it becomes identity. Self-understanding interrupts that loop: context, history, temperament, trauma, and simple human limitation come into view. Owning responsibility remains essential, but the frame shifts from self-condemnation to learning and repair. Research on the fundamental attribution error shows how easily we over-ascribe others actions to character and our own to circumstance; the aphorism invites humility both ways. In therapeutic settings, compassion-focused and acceptance-based approaches harness this insight, finding that self-forgiveness reduces avoidance and increases pro-social change.
There are limits. Some acts stay grievous despite context, and forgiveness never requires reconciliation or the removal of boundaries. Still, the reliable route to softer hearts runs through fuller seeing. Chase captures a disciplined mercy: not sentimentality, but clarity. To understand is to forgive because comprehension restores a shared humanity, and to include oneself in that circle is not indulgence but the courage that makes growth possible.
Forgiveness here is not amnesia or approval. It is the decision to release corrosive resentment while still naming the harm and protecting what needs protecting. That distinction matters. If we confuse understanding with exoneration, we fear that empathy will weaken justice. Chase suggests the opposite. Real understanding heightens accountability by showing where agency existed and where it faltered, while cooling the heat of vengeance that clouds judgment.
The final clause, even oneself, is the crucial turn. Many people reserve their harshest sentences for their own failures, rehearsing shame until it becomes identity. Self-understanding interrupts that loop: context, history, temperament, trauma, and simple human limitation come into view. Owning responsibility remains essential, but the frame shifts from self-condemnation to learning and repair. Research on the fundamental attribution error shows how easily we over-ascribe others actions to character and our own to circumstance; the aphorism invites humility both ways. In therapeutic settings, compassion-focused and acceptance-based approaches harness this insight, finding that self-forgiveness reduces avoidance and increases pro-social change.
There are limits. Some acts stay grievous despite context, and forgiveness never requires reconciliation or the removal of boundaries. Still, the reliable route to softer hearts runs through fuller seeing. Chase captures a disciplined mercy: not sentimentality, but clarity. To understand is to forgive because comprehension restores a shared humanity, and to include oneself in that circle is not indulgence but the courage that makes growth possible.
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