"I made a conscious decision that I was not going to have children. I didn't want others raising them, and looking after them myself would get in the way of being a musician and writer"
About this Quote
Stevie Nicks states a deliberate choice: she would not have children if it meant handing them to others while she toured and wrote. The clarity is striking because it rejects the soft focus around maternal destiny and treats parenthood as real labor that should not be outsourced lightly. She frames the decision as both ethical and practical. Ethical, because she refused to bring a child into a life where she could not be present. Practical, because the demands of being a musician and writer are incompatible with constant caregiving if one insists on doing either role fully. The line reveals a rigorous standard she set for herself as an artist and as a would-be parent: do not split the self into fragments and call the remainder good enough.
Context sharpens the point. Nicks came to prominence in a 1970s rock world that consumed time, privacy, and bodies. Fleetwood Mac’s success after Rumours made for relentless touring and publicity, while her solo career required its own uncompromising focus. She was more than a singer; she was a songwriter who needed space, solitude, and stamina. For many male contemporaries, family life continued under the cover of wives and nannies. Nicks refuses that model. Rather than replicating the gendered division of labor that often props up creative genius, she names it and opts out.
There is also a subtext of agency. She has spoken openly about reproductive choices and about a brief marriage undertaken to help raise a friend’s child, experiences that reinforced how high the stakes were for her. The decision did not come without cost; it acknowledges the loneliness and what-ifs that can accompany a life built around art. Yet it also affirms that choosing art is not selfish if it is done honestly, with eyes open to what is sacrificed. Nicks’s stance challenges the romance of having it all and substitutes a harder, braver ideal: know what matters most, accept the trade-offs, and live that truth without apology.
Context sharpens the point. Nicks came to prominence in a 1970s rock world that consumed time, privacy, and bodies. Fleetwood Mac’s success after Rumours made for relentless touring and publicity, while her solo career required its own uncompromising focus. She was more than a singer; she was a songwriter who needed space, solitude, and stamina. For many male contemporaries, family life continued under the cover of wives and nannies. Nicks refuses that model. Rather than replicating the gendered division of labor that often props up creative genius, she names it and opts out.
There is also a subtext of agency. She has spoken openly about reproductive choices and about a brief marriage undertaken to help raise a friend’s child, experiences that reinforced how high the stakes were for her. The decision did not come without cost; it acknowledges the loneliness and what-ifs that can accompany a life built around art. Yet it also affirms that choosing art is not selfish if it is done honestly, with eyes open to what is sacrificed. Nicks’s stance challenges the romance of having it all and substitutes a harder, braver ideal: know what matters most, accept the trade-offs, and live that truth without apology.
Quote Details
| Topic | Parenting |
|---|
More Quotes by Stevie
Add to List


