"I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough"
About this Quote
The word choice matters. “Afraid” is blunt and a little taunting, a refusal to psychoanalyze men into sympathy. “Terribly strong” carries a theatrical charge, like a spotlight flare - Bassey’s signature - making strength sound both admirable and socially disruptive. And “not fragile enough” is the sharpest twist: she’s naming how femininity has been historically rewarded when it appears delicate, manageable, grateful. Fragility becomes a kind of social currency; lacking it reads, in her telling, as a threat.
Context does the heavy lifting. Bassey came up in an industry that built women into icons while demanding they remain pliable - diva as both power and containment. A successful female performer knows the backstage math: acclaim can widen your audience while narrowing the kinds of intimacy people feel entitled to offer you. Her subtext is that this isn’t about individual insecurity alone; it’s about a script. Success in a woman exposes how many relationships are still negotiated around control, not compatibility.
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Bassey, Shirley. (2026, January 16). I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-men-are-afraid-to-be-with-a-successful-123058/
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Bassey, Shirley. "I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-men-are-afraid-to-be-with-a-successful-123058/.
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"I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-think-men-are-afraid-to-be-with-a-successful-123058/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









