"Instead of yelling and spanking, which don't work anyway, I believe in finding creative ways to keep their attention - turning things into a game, for instance. And, when they do something good, positive reinforcement and praise"
About this Quote
Richardson’s parenting philosophy lands like a quiet rebuttal to a whole TV era that treated family discipline as a punchline and a threat. The first move is blunt: “yelling and spanking…don’t work anyway.” She doesn’t moralize; she demotes those tactics to incompetence. That “anyway” is doing real work, framing harsh discipline not as controversial-but-effective, but as outdated theater adults perform when they’ve run out of ideas.
Then she pivots to craft: “finding creative ways to keep their attention.” The subtext is that parenting isn’t a power struggle; it’s an attention economy. Kids aren’t miniature adults who can be argued into compliance. They’re learners with short runways, and the adult’s job is to design the runway. “Turning things into a game” isn’t about being the Fun Parent; it’s about translating rules into a language children actually process: play, novelty, momentum.
The last beat - “positive reinforcement and praise” - signals a broader cultural shift from punishment to coaching. Richardson’s phrasing assumes kids do respond to feedback, just not the kind delivered through fear. Praise becomes less a gold star and more a relationship technology: it builds trust, makes good behavior repeatable, and keeps the adult from becoming the villain in the story.
Coming from an actress, there’s an unspoken professional tell here: she understands performance. Yelling is a bad script; games and praise are better direction. The point isn’t permissiveness. It’s strategy.
Then she pivots to craft: “finding creative ways to keep their attention.” The subtext is that parenting isn’t a power struggle; it’s an attention economy. Kids aren’t miniature adults who can be argued into compliance. They’re learners with short runways, and the adult’s job is to design the runway. “Turning things into a game” isn’t about being the Fun Parent; it’s about translating rules into a language children actually process: play, novelty, momentum.
The last beat - “positive reinforcement and praise” - signals a broader cultural shift from punishment to coaching. Richardson’s phrasing assumes kids do respond to feedback, just not the kind delivered through fear. Praise becomes less a gold star and more a relationship technology: it builds trust, makes good behavior repeatable, and keeps the adult from becoming the villain in the story.
Coming from an actress, there’s an unspoken professional tell here: she understands performance. Yelling is a bad script; games and praise are better direction. The point isn’t permissiveness. It’s strategy.
Quote Details
| Topic | Parenting |
|---|
More Quotes by Patricia
Add to List


