Love quote by John Ciardi

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Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual de
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"Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old"

- John Ciardi

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Love transforms throughout the lifespan, taking on different characteristics and meanings depending on the stage of life. John Ciardi’s observation presents an unvarnished depiction of this evolution. During youth, love often bursts forth as intense sexual excitement, driven by novelty, idealism, and the powerful surge of desire. The young experience love as an all-consuming passion, where attraction and infatuation play dominant roles, clouding judgment and fueling idealized expectations about romance.

As individuals mature, the fervor of early passion settles into something steadier. In middle age, love becomes marked by habituation—a sense of comfort and routine, forged through years of shared experiences and practical cooperation. The spark may dim, but in its place emerges a reliable partnership, often built around parenting, mutual obligations, and everyday coexistence. The passion of youth may morph into a quieter intimacy, one sustained not by excitement but by loyalty, shared habits, and the deep-rooted knowledge of each other’s flaws and virtues. Affection is expressed in small acts of care, shared routines, and quiet understanding, rather than dramatic displays of emotion.

In old age, love further transforms into mutual dependence. When physical passion and habit give way to the vulnerabilities of aging, partners rely on one another for both emotional support and practical assistance. Dependence doesn’t denote weakness but instead speaks to the deep interconnectedness that can develop over a lifetime. Love in this stage is less about grand declarations and more about the comfort of a sustained presence, the assurance that someone is there to witness and accompany the final chapters of life. The connection is shaped by shared history, resilience through hardship, and a sense of peace in each other’s company.

Ciardi’s observation bluntly exposes the changing nature of love—sometimes comforting, sometimes confronting, but always evolving as we journey through life.

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John Ciardi This quote is written / told by John Ciardi between June 24, 1916 and March 30, 1986. He was a famous Dramatist from USA, the quote is categorized under the topic Love. The author also have 20 other quotes.

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