"Maybe I spent more time dwelling on emotions than some people, and maybe that's why I ended up writing"
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The line recognizes an alchemy: an inclination to linger inside feeling becomes a vocation for language. For Iris DeMent, whose songs treat sorrow, faith, and ordinary life with plainspoken gravity, dwelling is not wallowing but a form of witness. She grew up between Arkansas roots and a Pentecostal household in California, steeped in hymns and hard lessons, and her writing often channels the ache and wonder of that inheritance. When she sings Our Town, the elegy arrives through patient observation; every detail is an emotion metabolized into story. Let the Mystery Be treats doubt the same way, letting uncertainty breathe rather than forcing an answer. That patience started with staying longer than others might inside the heat and tangle of feeling.
There is modesty in the double maybe, a hedging that matches the humility of her voice. She is not claiming special insight, only a temperament: someone who could not move on quickly, who sat with grief and bewilderment until words took shape. The phrase ended up writing suggests an unplanned calling. Writing becomes what happens when feeling will not be hurried.
Dwelling carries a stigma in a culture that prizes brisk resilience. Yet her career makes the counterargument. Songs like My Life and No Time to Cry honor mourning as labor, not indulgence. By giving emotion time, she distills it into clear, communal language. That is the folk tradition at its best: one person lingers so others can recognize themselves and feel less alone.
There is also a gendered undertone. Women are often told they are too emotional; DeMent turns that accusation into craft. The very sensitivity that might be dismissed becomes the instrument. Her long pauses between albums echo the idea as well; she lets life accumulate before she speaks. The result is writing that stays with listeners because it was willing, rst, to stay with feeling.
There is modesty in the double maybe, a hedging that matches the humility of her voice. She is not claiming special insight, only a temperament: someone who could not move on quickly, who sat with grief and bewilderment until words took shape. The phrase ended up writing suggests an unplanned calling. Writing becomes what happens when feeling will not be hurried.
Dwelling carries a stigma in a culture that prizes brisk resilience. Yet her career makes the counterargument. Songs like My Life and No Time to Cry honor mourning as labor, not indulgence. By giving emotion time, she distills it into clear, communal language. That is the folk tradition at its best: one person lingers so others can recognize themselves and feel less alone.
There is also a gendered undertone. Women are often told they are too emotional; DeMent turns that accusation into craft. The very sensitivity that might be dismissed becomes the instrument. Her long pauses between albums echo the idea as well; she lets life accumulate before she speaks. The result is writing that stays with listeners because it was willing, rst, to stay with feeling.
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