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There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy
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"There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy"

- Albert Ellis

About this Quote

Albert Ellis, a pioneering figure in the field of psychology, presented the idea of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), which highlights the function of irrational beliefs in emotional and behavioral disruptions. This quote encapsulates three essential illogical beliefs that lots of individuals hold, adding to individual frustration, stress, and psychological chaos.

The first "must," "I need to succeed," reflects a perfectionistic self-demand. This belief is rooted in the worry of failure and the desire for approval. When people feel compelled to succeed at all expenses, they place massive pressure on themselves, causing anxiety and self-criticism. This frame of mind frequently results in an unhealthy fear of failure, avoiding people from taking dangers or trying new experiences. The liberating option is to embrace a more thoughtful viewpoint, comprehending that errors belong to development which fundamental worth is not connected to performance.

The second "must," "You need to treat me well," highlights a dependency on external recognition and the belief that others are obligated to fulfill individual expectations. When people hinge their happiness on how others treat them, they approve extreme power to others over their psychological well-being. Undoubtedly, this results in frustration and resentment, considering that no one can perfectly fulfill another's expectations regularly. Welcoming the idea that a person can manage their responses, despite external treatment, promotes durability and psychological self-reliance.

The 3rd "must," "The world needs to be easy," underscores an unrealistic expectation about life's nature. This belief overlooks the intrinsic obstacles and intricacies of life, fostering frustration and despair when things don't go as prepared. Accepting that struggles and obstacles are unavoidable allows individuals to build adaptability and problem-solving abilities.

Ellis's quote encourages a shift from rigid, unreasonable beliefs to more flexible, logical thinking. This shift paves the way for healthier psychological responses, enhanced relationships, and a more fulfilling life. By challenging these "musts," individuals can welcome flaw, cultivate self-reliance, and navigate life's unpredictability with greater ease and resilience.

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USA Flag This quote is written / told by Albert Ellis between September 27, 1913 and June 24, 2007. He/she was a famous Psychologist from USA. The author also have 31 other quotes.

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