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Leadership Quote by Thomas Jefferson

"Friendship is but another name for an alliance with the follies and the misfortunes of others. Our own share of miseries is sufficient: why enter then as volunteers into those of another?"

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Friendship, in Jefferson's telling, isn’t a balm; it’s a contract for shared dysfunction. The line lands with the chill of Enlightenment accounting: other people’s lives come bundled with “follies” and “misfortunes,” and choosing intimacy means choosing exposure. It’s a stark reversal of the sentimental tradition that treats friendship as moral uplift. Jefferson doesn’t deny that companionship exists; he questions the prudence of it, framing affection as volunteer labor for someone else’s chaos.

The subtext is as revealing as the sentence. “Alliance” is political language, not domestic. Jefferson can’t help but translate human bonds into the logic of states: alliances entangle, obligations multiply, and you inherit liabilities you didn’t create. Read that way, the quote doubles as an ethical defense of distance. Keep your sovereignty. Don’t mortgage your limited peace to another person’s unstable weather. It’s a philosophy that prizes autonomy over mutual care, presenting self-containment as wisdom rather than loneliness.

Context sharpens the edge. Jefferson was a statesman shaped by faction, scandal, debt, and betrayals; he watched friendships become liabilities and alliances become traps. Early American politics was intimate and vicious, with reputations and livelihoods hanging on loyalty. In that world, “volunteers” is a loaded word: he turns altruism into a suspect impulse, as if empathy were a naive enlistment. The rhetoric works because it’s brutally coherent, even if morally bleak: it flatters the reader’s desire to feel rational while quietly licensing retreat from responsibility.

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Thomas Jefferson

Thomas Jefferson (April 13, 1743 - July 4, 1826) was a President from USA.

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