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Love Quote by Mary Wesley

"Imagination which comes into play in falling in love is different from any other. Certainly in my case, and I've fallen in love all my life, one imagines the person to be as you want them to be. They frequently turn out to be someone different, for better or worse"

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Love, in Mary Wesley's telling, is less a lightning bolt than a private act of authorship. The sharp move is her separation of romantic imagination from the rest of the mind's creative toolkit: this is not the imagination that writes novels or solves problems, but the imagination that edits a living person into a character who fits the role you need filled. Wesley, a novelist, is admitting that the most seductive fiction she ever produced wasn't on the page.

The line "I've fallen in love all my life" lands as both confession and credential. It's not the youthful diary voice of first heartbreak; it's the seasoned, slightly unsentimental view of someone who has watched desire repeat itself, changing costumes but keeping the same plot device: projection. She frames it clinically - "one imagines" - as if the self is running a predictable program. That distance is the subtext: the speaker knows she's complicit. Falling in love isn't just being fooled; it's participating in the con because it feels good.

Then she punctures the fantasy with a novelist's respect for character autonomy: "They frequently turn out to be someone different". The payoff is the moral ambiguity of "for better or worse". Wesley refuses the tidy lesson that projection is always naive or cruel. Sometimes reality disappoints; sometimes it improves the story. The intent isn't to warn against love, but to describe its engine: we don't meet people raw. We draft them, and then life revises the manuscript.

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Mary Wesley (June 24, 1912 - December 30, 2002) was a Novelist from United Kingdom.

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