"I understand by this passion the union of desire, friendship, and tenderness, which is inflamed by a single female, which prefers her to the rest of her sex, and which seeks her possession as the supreme or the sole happiness of our being"
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Then comes the sharper subtext: love as selection and exclusion. “Inflamed by a single female” reduces the beloved to a catalyst, almost an element in an experiment, while “prefers her to the rest of her sex” frames romance as ranking - a competitive economy of women, with one elevated and the others implicitly interchangeable. It’s not just affection; it’s a vote, a verdict, a narrowing of the world.
The most revealing move is the final clause: “seeks her possession.” Gibbon isn’t merely describing intensity; he’s exposing the period’s default grammar of intimacy, where devotion slides into ownership without sounding, to him, like a category error. “Supreme or the sole happiness” ups the stakes to near-theological absolutism, suggesting a modern-sounding obsession couched in patrician prose.
Context matters: late 18th-century Britain is negotiating between Enlightenment rationalism and a rising culture of sensibility. Gibbon’s sentence stands at that crossroads, trying to domesticate overwhelming feeling by giving it definitions - while smuggling in the era’s gendered power assumptions as if they were natural law.
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Gibbon, Edward. (n.d.). I understand by this passion the union of desire, friendship, and tenderness, which is inflamed by a single female, which prefers her to the rest of her sex, and which seeks her possession as the supreme or the sole happiness of our being. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-by-this-passion-the-union-of-desire-61068/
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Gibbon, Edward. "I understand by this passion the union of desire, friendship, and tenderness, which is inflamed by a single female, which prefers her to the rest of her sex, and which seeks her possession as the supreme or the sole happiness of our being." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-by-this-passion-the-union-of-desire-61068/.
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"I understand by this passion the union of desire, friendship, and tenderness, which is inflamed by a single female, which prefers her to the rest of her sex, and which seeks her possession as the supreme or the sole happiness of our being." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-understand-by-this-passion-the-union-of-desire-61068/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.








