"They are amazing kids so we let them make decisions but also have discipline"
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Kelly Preston captures a grounded approach to parenting that honors a child’s individuality while refusing to abdicate the adult’s role. Calling them amazing affirms a posture of respect and delight, not ownership. Letting them make decisions is an act of trust that builds judgment, accountability, and confidence. It treats children as people in formation rather than projects to control. Yet the second half of the line holds the center: autonomy without discipline can slide into chaos; discipline without autonomy can harden into fear. She describes a living balance where freedom is real but framed.
That balance aligns with what many call authoritative parenting: warm, responsive, and clear. Decisions are offered at developmentally appropriate levels, and boundaries are explained rather than imposed arbitrarily. The lesson is not obedience for its own sake but learning how choices carry consequences. Children who practice deciding in safe arenas are better prepared for the higher-stakes choices that adulthood will demand. Discipline here reads less like punishment and more like structure, routine, and consistent expectations that channel energy toward growth.
For Preston, a longtime actress and public figure, the stakes of this balance were heightened by life in the spotlight. Raising children while navigating fame, schedules, and scrutiny meant choices about privacy, media exposure, and values had to be deliberate. Trusting kids to decide helps them build an internal compass; keeping discipline at the core ensures that compass points somewhere steady. The statement also holds a quiet optimism: if you begin from the belief that your children are amazing, you are likelier to set limits that protect their potential rather than suppress it.
What emerges is a portrait of parenting as partnership with leadership. Adults provide the scaffolding; children climb it. The goal is not to control every move, but to cultivate a person who can choose wisely when no one is watching.
That balance aligns with what many call authoritative parenting: warm, responsive, and clear. Decisions are offered at developmentally appropriate levels, and boundaries are explained rather than imposed arbitrarily. The lesson is not obedience for its own sake but learning how choices carry consequences. Children who practice deciding in safe arenas are better prepared for the higher-stakes choices that adulthood will demand. Discipline here reads less like punishment and more like structure, routine, and consistent expectations that channel energy toward growth.
For Preston, a longtime actress and public figure, the stakes of this balance were heightened by life in the spotlight. Raising children while navigating fame, schedules, and scrutiny meant choices about privacy, media exposure, and values had to be deliberate. Trusting kids to decide helps them build an internal compass; keeping discipline at the core ensures that compass points somewhere steady. The statement also holds a quiet optimism: if you begin from the belief that your children are amazing, you are likelier to set limits that protect their potential rather than suppress it.
What emerges is a portrait of parenting as partnership with leadership. Adults provide the scaffolding; children climb it. The goal is not to control every move, but to cultivate a person who can choose wisely when no one is watching.
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